Warming the coconut oil up in the room, our love oil is sweet and spicy “just like love itself,” explains Dr. Raichur. Loving massage opens you to steamy passions that well up from deep within. A good massage can feel damn near orgasmic, regardless of whether you're in a spa or on your spouse, or take a tip from the spas. Giving your partner a massage will help you weave strong bonds of trust. Even in modern practice, lomi lomi therapists are taught to focus on the skin.